Etiquette during Purposeful Topics - Expectations of Conduct

Etiquette during Purposeful Topics - Expectations of Conduct

 

  • Admins or Moderators will facilitate an organized topic and will announce the start of an organized.

    • This  may be 1-2 Moderators to help during this time and minimize  confusion who are the facilitators of the organized time.

    • Facilitator(s)  will greet all incoming people in PM during the presentation.

      • "Welcome to the Garden's organized topic on "subject" by "Presenter's name".

  • Expectation of Members' Conduct

    • Protocols - if an active topic is going on, quietly slip into the room and do not distract from the presentation.

      • Suspend  protocols or politely ask a Dominant in PM to enter if there is a mandate of protocol observation by you and your Dominant

      • Refrain from individual hellos and room greetings during an active topic in mid-session

      • This is disruptive and unfair to both the Presenter and those present

    • Do not ask to PM members during organized topics

      • This is rude and tells the Presenter their time is not valuable or their information contributes nothing to the continuing education of others

      • Topic Presenters invest and volunteer their personal time to share their information.  Some are even nervous about presenting to a group

    • Do not disrupt topic with extra comments not pertaining to Topic subject, which includes actions and greeting others

      • Organized topic time is what it means, organized

      • This is an education time and if being respectful is going to be a concern, self-moderate yourself by leaving chat until after topic time

      • Continuation commentary is a form of hijacking and is as a purposeful disruption to direct attention to yourself

        • The site has specific rules on negative attention seeking

      • Disagreement/disinterest of topic subject.

        • Refrain from rude statements of disagreement or disinterest during the topic. Leave without a statement.

          • Save commentary for later.

          • You may publicly disagree with the presenter in the article reviews after the transcription has been posted.

        • Do not announce your intention to leave.

        • Violations of the above will result in a mute/ban dependent on the nature of the disruption

          • Rooma and Site Mutes may be for the term of the topic time or longer, not to exceed 7 days and may extend on discretion of site

          • Room or Site bans are based on the final decision of Site Owner/Admins after review of transcript

    • Do not become the "expert" giving the topic in lieu of the Presenter

      • Feel free to ask questions about the topic but do not dominate the chat with them

      • Feel free to answer other users' questions about the topic AFTER the Presenter has given their view FIRST, otherwise you are hijacking the presentation.

  • Moderators will PM (without permission) and advise the chatter of the behavior and give an instruction for it to cease.

    • If after a PM warning and continuation of offense, a room mute will occur.

      • PM request for the member to join them in Admin after topic chat.

      • Request another moderator to accompany you to Admin

      • Member refusal to come to admin will result in a 7 days site mute

    • After the 7 days, a room mute will remain in place until an Admin conversation has happened with the member within 3 days of the site release

    • Mute release is conditional on the conversation results with Admin/Moderators

    • If no Admin conversation is fulfilled after the 3 days, a ban will be imposed based on the rules of Negative attention seeking and failure to amend behavior.

    • Temp accounts are unable to enter Admin. One of the rooms you are Room Owner staff, change the password temporarily, discuss, and screenshoot conversation, then clear room

  • Advise Song Yung as she will keep a calendar reminder and make sure all Admin are aware of the calendar reminder updates for when the 7 days is up and when the 3 days begins

Special notes for Hot Topic presentations:

  • A moderator will be in the main Garden room and will state to each incoming member "welcome to the Garden.

Today, we are having a chat on the inflammatory subject of ________. Before you join the chat in the Hot Topic Room, do you agree to remain respectful and non-confrontational and to remember that everything represented and said in the chat is consensual and wanted by all parties in the scene or dynamic?"

  • After the chatter's explicit consent, the Moderator will PM the password of the Hot Topic Room to the user.

  • Upon the first breaking of the user's agreement,

    • The user will be room muted AND room blocked until a moderation discussion takes place.

    • The Moderator will PM the user of these conditions to be subject to a discussion in Admin or another room if temporary account.

    • Violators of Hot Topics may be rescinded the right to rejoin new Hot Topics depending on the results of the moderation

    • A List of violators no longer invited to Hot Topics will be kept and reminded to the Moderators


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